2019 was a wild ride. If I was tasked to use one word to describe or define it, it would be career. I’ve never been one of those people who focuses on their work and let life revolve around it. I’ve been pretty average my whole life and I liked it that way. That’s why this year was such a new experience for me.
Last year (to be exact, December 2018), I got promoted to team lead and I bit more than I can chew. I learned how to be a lead. I am working with a very young team. They come to me for everything – from emails to technical stuff. I must admit, I was not 100% confident with my technical skills earlier this year that’s why there was a moment where I had to choose between wanting to help the team or growing my technical skills, I choose to help the team. Doing so, taught me a lot about interpersonal skills and how to relate with people. It was very difficult for me since I am not a very social person. I learned, adapted and grew so much that looking back, I don’t regret doing something I wasn’t comfortable with.
My journey as a lead also taught me a lot about other people. Everyone works differently, everyone has different work ethics and priorities. There is no single rule or guide that will tell you how to properly or most effectively lead a person. Every situation is different! Which would explain some of my previous lead’s attitudes when it comes to dealing with people. Being a lead is tiring and all the extra weight of trying to accommodate every person does take it’s toll. This is not an excuse for poor leadership, however, this would explain why some people aren’t lead material. A lead must be really passionate with their work and with helping people. It’s a 24/7 kind of job.
I’m not sure I’m ready for that.
I re-learned that going out of my comfort zone is perfectly fine. Ever since I got married, I feel like I’ve regressed. Having someone with me all the time made me feel secure and in a way, I lost all my independence. When opportunities opened up for me this year, I decided to start saying yes and got myself out there. I was anxious 90% of the time but doing so made me feel invigorated and proud of myself. Just to be clear, it’s not my marriage’s fault that I feel like I regressed, I’m just programmed like that. I’ve always been shy and introverted and being out there definitely freaks me out. In any case, I’m so glad I started saying yes again.
I learned that learning never ends. If you feel like you’re already in a point in your life where you’ve done everything you could, think again cause chances are, you haven’t. There’s always something new to learn and new goals to set for yourself. Don’t limit yourself to a box and be willing to learn something new. Getting to know other people who are more experienced than you also helps. I’ve met a few people who have really inspired me last year. I’ve learned about their passions, habits, and stories. I must say, my life somehow looked lackluster after hearing about theirs.
Not that I’m complaining or anything. I’m just saying some people are really achievers and I was very amazed to hear about their lives.
In a non-career related way, I also learned more things about myself. I could go on and on but the most important lesson I’ve learned is people grow and change. Sometimes the changes we go through would either help us be better persons, cause issues, or hurt other people, but whatever the instance might be, best believe these changes are for the better. Like the point above, not everyone will think like yourself and it’s okay. Just as long as we don’t hurt each other
too much and continuously respect each other, there shouldn’t be a problem. Or if problems do arise, just remember to be respectful and set limits. Sometimes to become the best version of ourselves, we have to go through experiences that will mold us.
2019 was a humbling and educational year for me. I’ve learned so much about a part of my life that I really didn’t think of too much. Like I said, my career (or better phrased as work) was something I felt like I just had to do. It wasn’t something I was passionate about. But this year, I gave it my all and it was such a journey. I am now officially a workaholic, lol, kidding.
How was your 2019 like?