It was my birthday last month and on our way home the other day, my friend asked me “How was your twenties?”
How was it really? Ten years ago, I was in my third year of college. I was just your normal student, drifting, going where the wind took her. I was looking at all the blessings I had and thought everybody has this why should I make the most out of it?
Really dumb moment of my life. If I could go back in time, I’d be a better student, lol.
Nine years ago, I was in my fourth year of college – on the brink of graduating. I worked hard but not hard enough. I also had my OJT – my first experience of the real world.
Eight years ago I graduated! This was truly a highlight of my life (oh and also of my parents). I was their first college graduate. That year was also one of the most difficult years of my life. I failed my licensure exam (failed it by a little bit but still failed it). I decided to take the rest of that year off to enjoy life and decide where to go from there.
Seven years ago, I got employed. I signed with my current company and got assigned to night shift.
Six years ago, I met my husband and had an office romance, lol. That sounds cheesy but six years ago this would have been the highlight of my life. Work was work but going to work to meet a boy was fun and exciting.
Five years ago, I lived in a condo with my friends. This had to be the best and worst decision of my life. I learned and realized a lot about myself. I lost friends and kept the real ones.
This was such a disastrous year, to be honest. If I was an airplane, I had a plane crash that year. It was such a humbling and soul crushing year.
Four years ago, my career changed for the better. I got rolled off from that night shift project, spent months in bench, and got retooled to my current technology. (Work stuff that I don’t like to elaborate but it was a nice and challenging year.) It was also the year when I started blogging again!
Three years ago, my dad died.
Two years ago, I got married, lost a lot of weight, dealt with a lot of family drama and moved out of our family home. 😭 I was very optimistic that year but I wasn’t prepared for all the changes and challenges life had thrown me. It was a humbling experience.
A year ago, I got promoted to team lead, gained back all the weight I lost and had a lot of breakdowns with all the changes that happened in my life. I’ve only now started to get a hang of adulting and own my life – if that makes sense. There’s still a lot of adjustments to be done. There’s still a lot of unanswered questions. There’s still a lot of dreams to dream of and to turn into reality.
To answer my friend, looking back my twenties was fun. It was a decade of getting to know myself, challenges that broke me down, drama to live through, growth to make me stronger, and adventures to experience. It was a good decade – one where I could say I lived my best. I don’t believe in regrets. My twenties might not be that spectacular compared to the others but it was one wherein I got to know myself and developed a version of myself that looks at my thirties not with an end in sight but still with possibilities to explore.
I’ve learned is to enjoy and trust the process. Be humble and take things as they come. Hope for the best and never, don’t you even dare, expect anything.
Age is nothing but a number. Think young, feel young, and be young! ❤