I recently said on a blog post that I was going to blog daily this December. Guess what, it’s December 2 and I forgot to write yesterday. This explains the tag-filler-post that I published last night.

Truth be told, I have a lot of grand ideas in my head on how I’m going to do blogmas but yesterday was such a busy day (and today too!) that I just had to post a filler post. Taking you back to yesterday, we had a cleaning day. We had to change the bedsheets, do a deep clean of our home (and when I say deep clean I really mean deep clean cause this place is a mess), and restock our pantry and fridge. It was a pretty intense day and boy was I tired. We also went out to buy ourselves a Christmas tree.

Today our plan was to finish decorating the tree. We have glitter all over our newly cleaned floor. Why did I choose decorations with glitter again?

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I’m not sure how December will be. I’m a little worried cause it’s going to be my first Christmas married and since my husband and I have different traditions, I’m not sure how things will pan out. We have been putting off discussing our holidays because we don’t know which side of the family we’ll be spending it with… For you married people out there (or even for people who know people who are married), how do you equally distribute family time during the holidays? How do you even do holidays?

It feels like such a first-world country kind of problem but that’s my dilemma today, lol.

On a completely different note, this morning I was watching a Camie Juan video on YouTube and one of the comments caught my eye. The comment goes something like “show us a video where you only spend $50- $60 because lately, all your videos show you eating out when you say you’re poor in NYC.” True to Camie’s natural form, she responds and defends herself. It’s not really a big thing but I do relate to both of them. As the viewer, vlogs that only show the vlogger eating out and spending is not something I like to see cause it makes me jealous and question what the fuck I’m doing with my life. It makes me ask myself, why do I live such a boring life when the vlogger is enjoying her life even if she has previously mentioned how expensive living in NYC is! As the content creator, I feel like I don’t want to document or show the boring parts of my life. I wouldn’t show you my unwashed face while I type away in my pajamas if you get what I mean. But isn’t that kind of attitude, showing only a curated life to your followers, the cause of anxiety and FOMO? We show only the good side that sometimes people think that’s the only side. I don’t know what I’m saying, it’s just that that comment made me wonder how should we share our life online if both the viewer and the content creator has valid points?

I have some weird questions in my head. I’m not sure how I’m going to go about daily blogging but that’s day two for you. See you tomorrow! ❀

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About the Author Kat

To keep it short and simple: I'm twenty-nine years old. Still plenty young, but not as young as I used to be.

11 comments

  1. When I was first married I panicked about the splitting time too. There was even a thanksgiving me and my hubby spent apart because we couldn’t figure out family problems/timing. Our solution now (4 years going!) is to have one Christmas lunch and one dinner. Even them out (typically the one with the tiny kids earlier in the day for presents) and take your time for each family. If needed spend an extra day on Christmas Eve with one you might not be able to spend all the time you want to on actual Christmas.

    I’d sit down your families , separate or together, and explain that you want to celebrate with both but there’s only one day. Offer to help cook or something to make the transition easier. πŸ™‚

    Anyway that’s what I do. Hope it helps.

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    1. Thanks for the input, Aimee!! That’s something we haven’t thought of. We were actually just planning to skip out on the holidays so we don’t have to choose which part of the family we will be joining (I know, it’s a bad idea).

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      1. Or you can switch off. We did that one year when we were dating. One year we spent Thanksgiving with hubby’s family and then Christmas with my family. It’s pretty much what marriage is: compromise.

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  2. I literally JUST published a blogpost with the exact same title! And I was pleasantly surprised to see yours. πŸ™‚

    As a fledling YouTuber myself, I can feel the need to put the best content out there – because to a large extent, people come to the internet to see what’s exciting. If I were to sit in my room with a sad face, discussing the problems of my life, I don’t know how long the viewer will be interested in me or my nagging. The other side, as you point out, is true as well. We do feel jealous when we see people like us enjoying life to the fullest.

    I think it is important to internalize that the online world is a curation of the best things happening to people, and if we can do that, we can emotionally distance ourselves from getting affected by other people’s lives. Works for me. πŸ™‚

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  3. We alternate every year (eg if we visited my family this year, we’ll visit his the next year). Also if we’re at my family for Christmas, we’ll spend the New Year at his parents’ place.

    On influencers–I follow very few of them, but I highly recommend Aja Dang! She shares about how she’s tackling her debt (student loan), behind-the-scenes of how she takes her photos and other ‘influencer-y’ stuff. Her youtube content is not all rainbows and butterflies.

    But generally, I don’t mind that influencers don’t post the mundane or the less-than-positive side of their lives. I’m not even sure I want to see the negative. I know they have bad days and I know their lives aren’t perfect, but they have the right not to share those days and they’re not responsible for other peoples’ fomo. That said I’m in my mid-30s. Their teen followers might not have that perspective.

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    1. That’s a nice way to share the holidays….It’s the 11th already and we still haven’t settled it, lol. I’ll put into consideration how you do your holidays!

      With influencers, in general, I just have high standards especially with all the “power” they have with influencing the youth. I know some people who actually feel anxious and jealous over what they see on social media/YouTube. But that’s just my two cents and I honestly hope more people think like you (me included)! πŸ˜€

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  4. You and your husband will find a way to make things work for the holidays. πŸ™‚ & I know what you mean. I personally like blogs that show all sides of their life. Not just the good stuff.

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    1. Right??? I mean, it makes me think they’re human too. And I know how stupid that sounds – to think that they should also share that side of their life to us – but it makes them feel more relatable. πŸ™‚

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