I had this not so nice experience with a friend today. I actually have a long post drafted but won’t get to see the light of day talking about it. In summary, it was about our differences in opinion and goals in life. He company-hopped to get a bigger salary while I decided to stay in the same company for six years now. I’m not shaming him for his decisions in life. In fact, I am proud of him and support him as he aims for a bigger and bigger salary every year. You do you, I’ll do me. 

He made a snide comment about my (his past) company. I retaliated, of course. I got so worked up about his comment that today was the first time in a long time when I got disappointed in him. We all have to realize that we all have different goals and priorities in life. We also have different levels of contentment. My contentment doesn’t come from a close to a six-figure salary. It comes from blogging, cooking, reading and watching shows, lol.

We’re all different. We must know how to respect that. We must also always be kind. What might be shallow and funny to you might be offensive to other people.

Speaking of which, I read this beautiful article by Solenn Heussaff on her blog entitled “Reality Check: Nothing Real.” The gist: Be kind and do you. Don’t let anyone else’s life be a measure of how you should live your life. How apt, right? I don’t think these two topics are connected but the lesson it reminded me is. It’s the lesson of kindness and of being true to who you really are. 

We all have different lives to live. We are all motivated by different things. Never use someone’s measure of success to measure yours. You’ll always end up unsatisfied if you do.

Photo by Nick Karvounis on Unsplash


About the Author Kat

To keep it short and simple: I'm twenty-nine years old. Still plenty young, but not as young as I used to be.


    1. Trueness Kris!!! Isang napakahirap na skill na aralin at isabuhay yan. Pero yan talaga yung makakapagpasaya sa atin. Lalo na with instant everything (social media, messenger, etc) mas madali talagang icompare yung meron tayo at ung iba. Hay. πŸ™‚


      1. Yes ate. Medyo lie-low ako sa Facebook at IG nga this month eh and although hindi sya naging total hiatus, iba pa din sa pakiramdam na hindi ka masyadong tutok sa ginagawa ng ibang tao.

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      2. Tama. Minsan ako kahit ayaw ko mainggit, naiinggit ako pag babad masyado sa social media. Hehe kaya ako iwas iwas din and unfriend πŸ˜› HAHAHAHA

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  1. Nice thoughts, dear.

    May natutunan ako lately, though general lang siya, not applicable to all. Ang mga lalaki ay career-driven, mostly aiming for higher salaries. Kasi deep within them lies the idea of being a provider. Success, for them, is measured by how they can provide, sa sarili at sa pamilya. 😊

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    1. I agree. Ganyan talaga mentality ng mga lalaki. And that’s perfectly fine naman diba. Sila na ng partner/family nila yung magusap diyan. Pero nakakalungkot lang kasi. 😦

      Ang totoo niyan, I also expect my husband to provide for me, but never has he said anything to me or to his friends or family about it. He keeps his head down. And siguro dun galing yung frustration ko. Malaki man sweldo mo pero kung pangit mga sinasabi mo….well. Hahahaha!! Ang dami kong hanash. Ang pangit lang talaga kasi ng dating nung comment niya (which I won’t share na lang kasi nega masyado). Happy lang ako. Bahala siya! πŸ˜›

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