I had this not so nice experience with a friend today. I actually have a long post drafted but won’t get to see the light of day talking about it. In summary, it was about our differences in opinion and goals in life. He company-hopped to get a bigger salary while I decided to stay in the same company for six years now. I’m not shaming him for his decisions in life. In fact, I am proud of him and support him as he aims for a bigger and bigger salary every year. You do you, I’ll do me.
He made a snide comment about my (his past) company. I retaliated, of course. I got so worked up about his comment that today was the first time in a long time when I got disappointed in him. We all have to realize that we all have different goals and priorities in life. We also have different levels of contentment. My contentment doesn’t come from a close to a six-figure salary. It comes from blogging, cooking, reading and watching shows, lol.
We’re all different. We must know how to respect that. We must also always be kind. What might be shallow and funny to you might be offensive to other people.
Speaking of which, I read this beautiful article by Solenn Heussaff on her blog entitled “Reality Check: Nothing Real.” The gist: Be kind and do you. Don’t let anyone else’s life be a measure of how you should live your life. How apt, right? I don’t think these two topics are connected but the lesson it reminded me is. It’s the lesson of kindness and of being true to who you really are.
We all have different lives to live. We are all motivated by different things. Never use someone’s measure of success to measure yours. You’ll always end up unsatisfied if you do.