I just got back from one of the best trips of my life. Of course, I’ll post and share pictures with you guys soon. For now, I’d like to write down about my thoughts on spending eight days with only my husband to be.
This trip should’ve been with my brother and his girlfriend but due to certain circumstances (my brother’s bitch of a girlfriend), we separated. Initially, I had complained about this because I didn’t want to spend eight days in a foreign country with only my husband to be. I also wanted to have the option of running away when I get mad, or whatever. We’ve never been together for that long. We’ve always had time away and eight days with only him by my side worried me.
Thoughts & Realizations
As much as it worried me, I was also excited to have all of this time alone with him. After all, I am marrying this guy next year. What the heck am I thinking if the mere idea of a trip with him scares me? I had to tell myself that this is the perfect chance to have a glimpse of who and how he is in an unfamiliar territory. This is the perfect opportunity to see him, the real him.
What I saw was a man who:
- willingly goes out of his way for me
- always put me first
- will push me out of my comfort zone to help me be a better person
- has no sense of direction thus greatly depending on me, the better navigator
- has no skills for planning
- lets me buy tons of useless (but adorably cute postcards) instead of using that money for food or other pasalubong
- will not buy anything overpriced
- will not buy pasalubong for his family (he was okay with only giving his family one or two) (this was also the reason why during the time he went to Singapore all I got was what I asked for – he didn’t even go the extra mile – now I understand)
- easily gets tired but will muster up his strength to keep up with my quest/desire to go and see places (we have a six-year age gap – he’s older – he gets tired easily)
- will not buy a pair of shoes even if the one he’s wearing is getting worn out and the rain is soaking his feet (will take note to buy him a new pair this Christmas)
- will always prioritize what I want (don’t worry I already know this and I made it a point to prioritize him too)
- understands and loves me but will tell it to me straight when I need it
If we took this trip when we first started dating, I would have hated him in an instant. I would have broken up with him easily but taking this trip just months before our wedding (and four years into our relationship), it just shows, reminds, and comforts me that this is the guy I will be spending the rest of my life with. He is not perfect and he has all these little annoying quirks but I know and trust him. He will always be there to support me and help me a better person. I will also be there to support him and help him be a better person.
This whole experience reminds me of the concept of yin-yang. It made me think that our relationship is perfect. Perfect in the sense that we both have these flaws and shortcomings which we both get to balance out. There’s no need to overshadow one. There’s just working together for our benefit.
The principle of Yin and Yang is a fundamental concept in Chinese philosophy and culture in general dating from the third century BCE or even earlier. This principle is that all things exist as inseparable and contradictory opposites, for example female-male, dark-light and old-young. The two opposites attract and complement each other and, as their symbol illustrates, each side has at its core an element of the other (represented by the small dots). Neither pole is superior to the other and, as an increase in one brings a corresponding decrease in the other, a correct balance between the two poles must be reached in order to achieve harmony. –Ancient History Encyclopedia
I know that our relationship has a long way to go and this is only the beginning. But having our foundation as solid as this reassures me that no matter what we face in life, he will always be there by my side.