I got nominated to some awards and if you’ve been following the blog for some time, you’d know I don’t really follow the rules
I’m a bad girl. Instead, I just answer the questions. Lame, I know. I just don’t like nominating people cause it feels like I’m only picking a handful from all the amazing blogs I get to read and interact with.
What is your advice for someone who had a friendship break-up? I went through this and it was so bad. Let me tell you the story. It was with my closest office mate. We used to work night shifts and lived in the same condominium. One day, I was already asleep and she arrived quite late in the afternoon. She came in noisily and woke me up. I couldn’t go back to sleep and had to go to work with only a few hours of sleep. I acted up and made sure she saw my annoyance over what happened. After getting some rest, I was back to normal but she wasn’t. We haven’t talked since and she never really told me what her real problem was.
It took me a long time before realizing that I should just forget about her and move on. I remember my boyfriend and I even arguing over it because all I could ever talk about was her. I was so affected. It was the first time that something like that happened to me and I didn’t know what to do.
So my advice is this, if you have a friend and you argued make sure to try and fix it. If you really value your friendship try and do everything you can to salvage it. However, give yourself limits and only try up to a certain point. As with every other relationship out there, it should go two ways. If a person can’t reciprocate your effort, friendship, or love, they are not worth it. There are so many people in the world and I bet one of them is better your ex-friend.
ps. I’m not saying it all her fault. There’s definitely more to the story (although I couldn’t tell you because until now I don’t know what her issue was, lol). All I’m really trying to say is, if a friend is a friend, honesty is one of the most important values out there. If they can’t be honest with you what’s the point of being a friend?
Are there any regrets you have? What are those? I don’t generally try to believe in regrets because it makes me question every other decision I have in my life. I try and always live in the moment – sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.
What is the most memorable and proudest moment you have in your life? Have I ever told you guys that I am the first person to finish college in our family? My older sister had other plans for her life and it was up to me to make sure to get that diploma and present it to my parents. It sounds simple because it’s just college but if you only know the real story, you’d understand why this was a big feat for us.
What do you usually do when you feel down? I blog, watch K-dramas, read or do my skincare.
How do you control your anger when everything is just too much? First of all, I take deep breaths. Second, I go away from the scene. If it happened at home, I go take a walk and just breathe. If my laziness permits, I go for a run to clear my head. I just go out and try to get away. I rarely strike when the iron is hot because all that’s ever done for me is make things worse, lol. And lastly, I confide in someone who is honest and wouldn’t judge me for feeling the way I feel. This is usually my boyfriend who isn’t afraid to tell me what’s up straight to my face.
Try to calm down and don’t let your anger control you. Some people prefer to go all out when they’re angry but I don’t think that’s the way to go. You shouldn’t say or do things you don’t mean to just because you’re too emotional. This is actually a hard lesson to learn. Not a lot of people can actually do this but trust me, you should learn it.
Are you happy right now? I wouldn’t say I’m happy. I’m okay.